Last week, when I posted my "Top 10 Reasons to Date an Entrepreneur" I got a response from someone who was actually interested in going on a date.
It's funny, because that wasn't the intended purpose of the post--it came out of a conversation I was having with someone about entrepreneurs and what working on a startup does to your personal life. Then I realized, that in my 4+ years of blogging, that was the ONLY time I've ever been approached that way. 2,246 posts and, before that, not a single person has stepped forward and said, "Hey, you seem like the kinda guy I'd want to go out with."
Now, I suppose for half of that time, I've been seeing someone, but I don't think that's always been apparent. Still, what about the other half?? Perhaps there's the fear of the spotlight--as if I blog all my dates here, which I obviously don't.
The one thing I think I can say is that, while there's a lot of content here on this blog, it really does only present just a side of me. I think a lot of blogs are like that--where the professional person comes off in such a way that might be different from the person you'd get to know if you knew them personally. So, I thought it would be interesting to start a meme encouraging other bloggers to share a little something about who they are and what they want when it comes to their dating/relationship life.
So here are the rules:
Write 5 things about either a) what you value in a counterpart or b) what someone needs to know about your dating/relationship personality.
Then, link to 5 people of the OPPOSITE SEX that you want to see answer these questions (to ensure that it doesn't just look like a bunch of dudes trying to get a date.) If you're already in a relationship, you can still answer of course. This is more about getting to know a different side of you, or just getting to know you better.
Ok, here's mine:
- Despite my strongly held opinions and outspoken nature, I'm actually quite openminded and really desire that in someone else. I like new ideas and perspectives, and it is exactly this desire for feedback, pushback, etc. that helps me form such strong opinions--because I do feel like I do what I can to be surrounded by tire-kickers.
- I'm much more of a 1 on 1 person than I am about big groups. I'd rather get to know one person pretty deeply than meet 30 people and just get names and what they do for a living.
- I want to meet someone who is passionate about something--anything. It doesn't have to be their career (although if you're going to spend 8-12 hours a day at something, that might as well be it), but I just can't relate to people who can't get really really psyched about at least one thing in their lives.
- I need someone with a calendar--someone who understands how to stick to some kind of schedule. That's really different than someone who needs a routine. Being spontaneous is fantastic, but I also can't deal with last minute cancelations or leaving things too up in the air. I don't see my friends enough. I don't see my family enough. So, if you can't tell me whether or not you're free Saturday afternoon at least a few days in advance, don't expect me to cut out possible family time to leave it open for whenever you figure out where the wind will take you that day.
- I take care of myself and find it difficult to date anyone who doesn't respect their own body. I don't think I could date a smoker, and while you don't have to be a gym rat, getting some kind of exercise at least a couple of times a week shows that you care about yourself and your body--that you think enough of it to keep it up. I do, however, love desert, so ice cream is a big exception to this--Ben & Jerry's Cherry Garcia... rrrrrggggg.
Ok, I'll tag Shri (even though she's married) , Rachel, Tik, Tara, and Whitney (although you can learn a lot about her here). Funny, there were a couple of other women that I wanted to tag, but I knew they'd never repost this, because their blogs are solely professional. I think that's very telling, because a lot of women don't even want to open that door at all and let all the crazies in. :)